Reciprocal: “shared, felt, or shown by both sides”
Hey guys, so it’s been awhile since I made a post I know I have been so busy with life but I just wanted to share some thoughts of mines and others so here I am. I hope you all have been well and enjoying life the way you enjoy life lol and I would like to say thank you to those that actually read my post I really appreciate it. Please don’t be afraid to comment like or share.
Ok ok now that’s out the way let’s talk about it dun dun dunnnnn…
This can be any type of relationship with friends family members, co workers etc. sometimes we don’t always break even in these types of things. Some of us give freely and selflessly that it can backfire and really hurt us. Some of us don’t give enough or are already hurting and tend to hurt ourselves more if we aren’t careful. So how do we break even in relationships?
“Open hands can’t receive blessings if they’re closed holding onto grudges” -Jason Sky
I don’t think I really forgave him for everything, from finding out he was still messing with his child’s mother to denying that we ever had anything. That hurt and not only did I have to deal with his lies I had to deal with her insecurities. The constant nerve of her calling herself a woman, his woman… It hurt. As time goes on I realized I’m only truly hurting myself because he’s going on with life and I’m still trying to get people to see the liar and cheater that he is.
True forgiveness is letting go of everything completely by not going back to what hurt you or dwelling on the situation.
How could I move forward and love someone else if I kept back tracking? Today I forgive him though for everything the hurt, the lies, slandering just everything. Today when I awoke I was free. Free from hurt that he caused and the pain.
Free from the ridicule I had received just FREE.
I forgave him for not being man enough to take ownership in raising our child but most importantly I didn’t just forgive him I forgave myself as well. I forgive myself for being so hard on myself and thinking that I failed as a woman, as a parent. I forgive myself for allowing someone to continue to play me and forgetting how worthy I was. Worthy of being LOVED, being VALUED, receiving RECIPROCITY, and being cared for GENUINELY.
Often times when women go through bad relationships or breakups we tend to forget who we are, who we used to be and who we want to be. We get lost in who we thought a person was or who they have the potential to be. I myself know what it is like to fall in love with potential having a good heart can always have us saying “If they just did this or if they just said this more”. Instead sometimes the best thing to say is but this is who they are right now. Are they capable of changing? OF COURSE, but can you truly change them?
Be okay with that individual not being ready or not displaying their full potential. You have to take it as a lesson learned, apply it to your life and move on. Forgive yourself. Live a life full of joy, happiness and peace. Because you deserve it and you owe it to yourself.
Today I forgave ME.
Love and Light
Welcome to my blog site, my name is Janiece Nicole I was born in Gary, Indiana but raised in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. I have a 3 year old son and I recently relocated to Las Vegas, (Sin City) Nevada. I love it and I don’t want to bore you guys so let’s get to the nitty gritty. I’m sure you all are wondering why, Why I may have named the blog what I named it and why me of all people would want to create a blog. Up until now my life has been simple and private I don’t let a lot of people into my life so this i’m sure is odd for those who know me. Let me be the first to say my life is still just that simple and private lol (is that appropriate on here?) I just have a lot of thoughts that i think people can benefit from and every now and then I like a good dialogue.
Alright, alright now that that’s out the way let’s talk the truth. The truth about love, the truth about relationships, or how about the truth about faith? The truth about happiness or the truth about fear? What about the truth about Knowledge? Do you all agree that sometimes we don’t really know what these truths are or have forgotten the true meaning of these. I started writing a book some years ago titled Habitual Liars and initially it was going to be a tell all book exposing the weaknesses of the many people that hurt me but in the process of writing I began to expose myself and all that I was. The truth is I wasn’t really being honest with who I was or who I wanted to be and I didn’t fully realize the hurt and pain that I was causing myself. See in all actuality we can be so busy trying to point out another’s flaws that in turn it ends up being our own. We tell the person who hurt us that their this and their that but we never tell ourselves who we are, habitual liars. Let me just say that pointing the finger is a dead give away of who the habitual liar really is. Instead of pointing the finger at those who have hurt us or betrayed us we need to point the finger at ourselves.
This is just a snippet don’t want to bore anyone hope you come back for more.
Love and Light
The reason I wanted to start a blog… because the nights I couldn’t sleep at night from tossing and turning I decided to get my thoughts out in a positive and healthy way. These are my opinions and sometimes the opinions of others. Free from judgment and negativity. I started a book called Habitual Liars but don’t think i’m quite ready to release it so here I am. Enjoy.
Love and Light